I suppose courting can come in all sorts of forms. As I mentioned previously, one of the first areas I considered was character. If there is no depth, there is nothing to be mined as you spend a future together.
My first inquiry regarding character always relates to the core.
I don’t believe that two people are just two pieces of physical, flesh and blood, things. Human beings are more than just animal carcasses.
Humans are more than just triggered electrical signals that result in action and reaction – and perhaps emotion and motion. There is a center to a person that I call the spirit of that person.
I want to relate to that other person’s spirit. In the deepest friendship of marriage, there is a need to push beyond physical action and related emotions. The spirit needs to be a part of the equation.
Our spirits are only at their best when they are connected with their creator. Unless two people join in connection with God, they live in a “less than” equation. There will be less than a united delight in their union.
Therefore in courting, my first point in a character reference is to look for someone who has a first love found in Jesus. How exciting when you come across that type of innocent intention – that type of desire that finds truth and beauty and happiness in God – and then spreads that love out from their core.
I love it!!