Reflecting with a number of us who have been around for the last few decades, we are amazed at the previous generation. Amazed that they are no longer with us. Or are a shadow of their previous involvement.
I think I have had an unconscious idea that people will live – perhaps on this earth for centuries. I know that is not supported by reason. I know that is desired by a closeness and camaraderie that develops over the years.
I would like to magically wish that no one would die. I would love to have my previous wife, my father, my brother, my church friends, and many others who would walk my daily path with me.
They do not.
Which is why grieving is more than just for a moment. Yes, in the moment of death, I find that emotions overwhelm, and plans are changed, and life takes on a new look. But years later, a memory may arise, a familiar situation intrude, and even a celebration be interrupted by the past. And the wish arises that that person was around.
I believe, with a hope others do not have, that life continues after death. There is indeed comfort in that. The Bible talks of that comfort – while placing that thought in the midst of the hardship of a moment where someone’s death is being remembered.
And so, we have two sides. Comfort and grief. Both at the same time. To try and dismiss one or the other is to miss the fulness of human life.
May God comfort us, while not being withdrawn from loving memories!
Amen ! It has been 12 years since Allan died, and yesterday for some reason or other, a memory came back of him of when he used to help serve communion in church. It was so vivid like it was yesterday. He loved to serve in any capacity. Beautiful memories and Jill was so like him ….loved to help others. Thank God for giving us such good memories.